I own WAW on both machines and have the same mod installed on both. I also moved the actual mod contents from 'AppData\Local\Activision\CoDWaW\mods' to 'AppData\Local\Plutonium\storage\t4\mods' (a step not in the guide? needed to find this fix from youtube videos, otherwise I couldnt launch the mod)

Both machines show uPnP enabled, both networks are private (public didnt work either), and i've added both plutonium profile/users with each other. I see each pc on the other's friends list.

Like the guide says, as well as every video ive looked at, I host a private match and use the console cmd 'xpartygo' ( i also didnt see this step in the guide?) to force start the match despite having only 1 player. Then i try to join from the other pc by either clicking the friend on the friends list or typing 'connect <ip>' but neither one works. I see the 'friend' is in a private match but nothing happens when i do either.

I dont know what else to do to get this to work