So I got this all to work finally so I wanted to leave an update for anyone with the same troubles in the future. I could not get the steam copy to work with map changes and custom maps for the life of me. I wonder if this is because of the T4 mod or something (no clue). But I used the t4 game files for the server hosting and my steam copy for playing the games. Using this combination worked just like the instructions in the Plutonium provided guides suggest.
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